It's my 4-year anniversary of living alone and to celebrate, I wanted to share why I could never live with a roommate again - especially after living with over 8 different people in a span of 7 years.
First off, you may think that it's me and that I'm the problem, and you're probably right. I crave alone time and no, I'm not anti-social. I just love coming home to a place that I can call my sanctuary, where I don't have to deal with small talk or worry about waking someone up late at night. My schedule is sporadic and no two days are the same, so I love that I can just come and go as I please without worrying about anyone else.
After 8+ roommates and 7 years of moving (consistently), I can finally say that I found a place I can call home. It isn't in LA, which I love, but it is still in the LA county. It's close enough to Downtown but far enough away from the chaos and traffic. The food here is great and reminds me of home, and the best part is, not everyone knows where this area is!
So you're probably wondering if all my roommates were that bad, which is why I can't have one again and the answer is no. Not all of them were, but some had a few habits that were my pet peeves and others I hardly ever saw so it felt like I didn't even have a roommate. While I adored all my roommates, as some were are my really good friends, there were a few questionable ones that drove me to wanting my own place more and more. Here are my top 3 reasons why I could never have a roommate again -
1. Scheduling Differences: As I mentioned earlier, my day-to-day schedule changes and therefore, I will sometimes come home super late or sleep really early. Slamming doors and waking up in the middle of the night to drunk roommates or friends of my roommates is the last thing I want to deal with, especially if I have an early morning the next day. This also becomes an issue when you share parking spots or park in front of one another - waking up early to move the car is never fun.
2. Sharing Spaces: When it comes to the bathroom, kitchen, living room, and any other common areas, I get a little picky about it. Meaning, I am very OCD about things being in their place and having a clean room. Believe it or not, not everyone feels the same about having a presentable kitchen or living room for guests. While I don't always wash my dishes right after I eat, I do wash them before the end of the day and I found that not everyone shares this same idea. Some people leave it until a few days later, end of the week, and there have been someone who left it until flies decided to descend. Bottom line, I will clean if I have to but it isn't my full responsibility to do so. Some people don't understand the concept of sharing chores or spaces and the last thing I want is to come home and nag someone. I refuse to be anyone's parent.
Side note: I also don't want to worry about walking around in my undies. I don't walk around naked but occasionally in my intimates or bathrobe.
3. Peace and Quiet: Ultimately, I'm the type of person that loves to be around people all day, which is why I love my industry. Meeting new friends, reuniting with familiar faces at events, and catching up over coffee is what I love to do. But at the end of the day, nothing is more satisfying than crawling into my bed and not having a thing to worry about. I can be as clean as I want or as messy as I want. I know that when I place something down, it'll still be there (unless one of the cats decides to knock it down). I would much rather pay more for a peace of mind and even if a good chunk of my income goes to rent, I would not trade this quietness for roommates.
And if you're wondering what about my significant other? Well, that's not for another few years and maybe by then, I'll change my mind (hah).
To reiterate, not all the roommates I had were bad - in fact none of them were terrible but we just had differences. I do have a couple that I truly love and am still really good friends with so it's all about finding someone who balances you out and remember, you never know someone until you've lived with them. So choose wisely before signing that lease.
Do you have any horror stories involving roommates? Let me know in the comments below! I'd love to hear why you love or hate having roommates too!