Fall in Love with Yourself, Again
Sometimes, you catch the elevator just in time and on other days, you miss the train by just a few minutes, thanks to traffic. Life is not fair; it is not easy but it is only as hard as you make it to be. As humans, we are meant to feel emotions and yes, sometimes that includes pain. We can easily hide, deflect, and dismiss the majority of the things we don't want to deal with. However, there is one thing you can't deny nor should you even try, and that is loving yourself.
My favorite Lucille Ball quote is, "Love yourself first and everything else will fall into line." If you don't already know, Lucille Ball is my idol. She didn't have an easy childhood, she grew up determined to better herself and put 100% in everything she did. She never once allowed anyone to stop her, despite being ridiculed, criticized, and consistently told "no". Hell, she was even accused of being a communist at one point and she handled the media's accusations like a champ. Her strength, passion, and love for herself is why I look up to her.
Lucy had the right idea, she didn't care if anyone else believed in her as long as she believed in herself. She never gave up on herself and sometimes, life's toughest obstacles can help you realize that you are your number one fan - and why shouldn't you be?
It's tough, we all fall into that trap of what we think we should be doing versus what we truly want to do. We naturally want to please our friends and family members, make them proud, and we end up putting their happiness before ours. While it is great to always think of the people you love first, you can't allow yourself to fall behind.
In the last few months, or should I say my entire summer, I was able to reconnect with myself and realize what is most important to me. I realized that time spent with people I love the most is precious and that despite being a hustler, I need a break from my phone more than once a week. I can't always work 50+ hour weeks and our bodies aren't made to keep up with a routine like that. We need sleep, we need to rest, and in this digital age, we need to learn to disconnect - without feeling guilty the next day about it.
On the other hand, you also have to prioritize and while I was rediscovering who I was all summer, I failed to keep up a well balanced schedule. Unfortunately, I'm now paying the price for my lack of self care while I was busy out exploring and going on adventures. I have never had problems with my skin before, acne was normal as a teenager, but I would have never thought I have to deal with it at the age of 28. My skin is at its worst, I'm getting sick more often, and I haven't been on my A-game with my blog. Also, that fast metabolism that I relied on for years, is slowing down which means I need to pay closer attention to myself.
I can 100% say that I'm thankful for a great summer filled with new cities and being able to cross off things from my bucket list. Without this summer, I probably would not have realized the things I had taken for granted including myself. I was so focused on achieving goals in a specified timeframe that I created that I started to forget to enjoy life. I ceased to live in the present and was always thinking about the next day, week, or month.
I put pressure on myself and lost sight of myself during the process. I literally had a friend tell me the other night, "I've missed this Lisa. You became so serious and forgot how to have fun, but welcome back." Working your ass off is necessary as an entrepreneur and doing whatever it takes to get to where you want to be isn't a problem. It becomes a problem when all you do is work and all you think about is your career. Becoming obsessive with success and not remembering that you're only human, will only burn you out. My body is telling me, loud and clear, that I need to reevaluate and take a step back. It's about time that I listen.
In the last couple of weeks, I have changed my lifestyle with subtle adjustments here and there. Starting with the time I go to bed, the amount of sleep I get, and pushing myself to drink more water. I also have come to accept that my acne is bad, I can't keep hiding it under makeup (or Snapchat filters) and that I need to do something about it. Meaning, I need to eat healthier and exercise regularly. I also have to pay closer attention to what I'm putting on my face. I love myself too much to allow myself to quit, but that also means knowing when to call it a night too.
This summer, I learned how much I like hiking and that I prefer to skip the small talk. I fell in love with myself through weekend getaways and week long travels to cities that I've never been to before, with friends that I absolutely adore. I also learned to balance out my schedule, skipping events to meet deadlines and learning to say "no" to projects that would stress me more than benefit me. By falling back into love with myself, I was able to start living the life that I am blessed to have versus lusting over the life I wish I had. The first step is to accept and allow, acknowledge that it's OK to not answer every email on time, to put your phone on silent when you're at the dinner table, and that taking a vacation shouldn't make you feel bad. We're all so hard on ourselves when there's no reason to be.
There's no such thing as a perfect life, there's a well balanced life that you create and control, and it all starts with making sure that you take care of you first.
Happy Monday! Let's kick October's ass.