Build a Bridge and Get Over It
I was given the best advice the other day by a stranger that I had just met. "Do not apologize for the bullshit of others. You have NO control over what other people do. You do have control over what you say and how you react. As women, we always apologize for shit that isn't our fault. Do I ever hear my husband apologize for his friend's actions? No way!" It was the realest shit I've heard in awhile and from a woman that is beyond amazing.
It's taken me years to notice that I have always apologized on behalf of other's faults. I didn't have control over what they did or said, yet I was always the one taking the blame. Why? For what? It's a damn hard habit to break, especially when you don't realize it. I'm so grateful that blogging has allowed me to network and really connect with people who truly inspire me. So while I may still "sorry" a lot, I am definitely going to try and just own up to what I'm responsible for and say "screw it" to all other things I have no control over.
Cue in Justin Bieber's "Sorry" song.
Now let's talk about this bridge and this outfit. First off, I know there will be a bunch of bloggers asking me where this bridge is so let me just tell you that I found it in Santa Ana. Unfortunately, I cannot tell you the exact location because I really don't remember. KSOLE and I literally drive around and randomly find places to shoot so when I say I don't remember, I'm not being a bitch. I really have the worst short term memory.
Secondly, this is the most you've probably seen me covered up in awhile - hah. I'm always going to have some skin showing, it's my style so this is as close as it gets guys. I'm stocking up on a few heavy coats for my trip up north in January, so I definitely had to snag this Boo Hoo coat. Underneath is a Forever 21 crop turtle neck and I paired it up with soft denim jeans from Cotton On. Heels on, but it was a struggle walking across that bridge. Bridges are not heel friendly at all.
Lastly, I just want to remind everyone that if you aren't going to do something with passion, please don't do it at all. "Love what you do and you never have to work a day in your life." On that note, remember to never apologize for other's people's actions/behavior. You can only control how you feel, what you do, and what you say. Thank you Carol Ann for the best advice.